New Mind, New Marriage #TeamMarriage

December 31st doesn’t give you a new year; January 1st doesn’t give you a new year. It’s not the changing of a calendar that gets you a new year. It’s the changing of a mindset; it’s the changing of an attitude; it’s the changing of your spirit; It’s the changing of your heart. You could have a new year in the middle of the year. Whenever you you’ve got a new mind, you’ve got a new year--T.D. Jakes

As we begin to approach the year 2012, we all reflect on the year that is about to be in our past, 2011. We have all been through some trial and tribulation and we also have had our beautiful happy moments of this year.


Many of us also do what we call New Year's resolutions. Some of us will start our weight loss programs and some of us will state that we will put away some long habits that we no longer want apart of us. One thing I have noticed just within myself, I NEVER stick to my resolutions lol. Something will always come up especially with the weight loss goal lol.


I wonder how many of us realize its more than just the words that we proclaim but its our mindset which will lead to our actions. I often think about the marriages of this past year and ones now and I wonder how many stated that they wanted certain things to take place in their marriage but just stated the words and did not change the way they thought or their actions.


It takes more than communicating the change you would like to see, it first has to start with you and your mindset. You cant demand or command something and you don't work with yourself first. You want new life in your marriage, start with you! You want that spark back that you once had before, you start that spark!


Let us as 21st century wives and husbands so the world that it can work! #TeamMarriage is in effect for 2012 and beyond! It will work because we will have a new mind, a new spirit, a new attitude to make it work!!!

#TeamMarriage LETS GO!!!!

Attitude of Gratitude

With the holidays here and the New year vastly approaching, I’ve been thinking a lot about the little things that I am grateful for. Obviously, my husband immediately came to mind and I was overwhelmed with a feeling of sincere gratitude and appreciation towards him. But then I got to thinking, how often do I really tell him how grateful I am?

I think too many times we get caught up in thinking, “Oh well, he knows how I feel about him. He knows I appreciate him.” But does he really?

When is the last time you really thanked your partner for spending time with you? Or listening to you talk about your day? Or helping you around the house? Or going to work to help pay the bills?

I said to myself I am going to start making it a goal to openly thank my husband for all the things he would does around the house. When he wash the dishes, when he bathes our son, I want to thank him.

As I go about thanking him each day, I realized more and more all of the little things he does for me and our family. Of course, he does many big things too like going to work each day to provide for us. But he is also constantly doing other small acts of service around the house that I may not notice if I don’t make it a goal to thank him more

At first thought, it seems kind of silly and redundant to say thank you over and over again. I mean, he gets it, right? I’m thankful for him? Do I really need to say it a million times?But I noticed a big difference in our relationship; my husband and I are way more willing to help one another when we feel appreciated by the other. We wanted to be there for the other person. And in the end, those feelings of appreciation turns more into deeper feelings of love, love that is frequently expressed through our gratitude.

I feel like I am learning a very important lesson in sincerely thanking our spouses, partners, and family members that I hope to remember when times do get challenging. And I hope you also remember that “Thank You” often translates into “I Love You.” Which is truly a great feeling, gift, and blessing you can share with one another.