Are you Willing to Carry Your Spouse's Destiny?

Adapt yourself to the things among which your lot has been cast and love sincerely the fellow creatures with whom destiny has ordained that you shall live.

Marcus Aurelius

I have been having this discussion with good friends of mines and I thought why not share with the women of immarriednow.com

If I could pick a subtitle for this blog it would be Interceding for you husbands. We as Women (Saved or Un-saved) have a duty to uplift our husbands daily because of the daily activities a Man has to go through. (And trust this goes both ways). In Genesis 2:18 it states that the woman is suppose to be a HELP MEET for the man. And that just does not consist of cooking and cleaning. It means that at times, certain things that we may wants at the time we must put on hold because the head of our family needs us spiritually more right now than a want. But even as we carry or even push our husbands into their destiny/calling we are also being molded for what is to come for us.

You need to pray for your husband's destiny to be birthed if it has not been; pray that his God given vision should be established; pray for him to be focused; pray for him not to fall into error; pray for his deliverance if in any form of bondage; pray for favor upon his job or business; pray for him to have good health; pray for protection etc. Rather than compete with your husband or judge and criticize him, it is always beneficial if you go on your knees to intercede for him.

We as wives see certain things that our husband cant see or at the time may not see because of daily tasks that comes with him. It is our job to pray for that vision. When we took our vows we told God that He could trust us with his blessing, our husbands. Because he is head we must protect the head of our house by praying for him because he feels most of the pressure because he is the provider. Face it, He is Big Daddy lol.

Lets say that in your home right now you are the bread winner, you pray for your husbands "ego". Pray that God gives him the peace and the understanding and you still let him know that he is needed and is the head of the house.

Here are some scriptures and declarations:

As it is written in Isaiah 60:1 – I prophesy into your life – ARISE AND SHINE FOR YOUR LIGHT IS COME

– IN YOUR CAREER ARISE
– IN YOUR BUSINESS ARISE
– IN YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE
– IN YOUR MINISTRY ARISE IN YOUR FINANCES ARISE, IN JESUS NAME
As it is written in Isaiah 45 – I prophesy into your life –
 The Lord will hold your right hand;
 Subdue nations before you
 Loose the armors of kings for you
 Open before you the double doors of favour wherever you go
 Give unto you the treasures of darkness
 Give you the hidden riches of secret places.
As it is written in Isaiah 8:10 - Every counsel of the enemy over your life will come to nothing in Jesus name.
Every conspiracy against you on your job, business in your family will not prosper in Jesus name.
Father separate my husband from evil friends and evil influences in Jesus name. IT IS WELL WITH YOU ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR LIFE IN JESUS NAME

So as women, strong women, independent women of the 21st century, lets built our men up. Pray for them. And trust when we do our parts, we will get all our wants and need. From God and our husbands!!

Forgiving Your Past to Live in your Marriage

My dear friends, I'm not writing anything new here. This is the oldest commandment in the book, and you've known it from day one. It's always been implicit in the Message you've heard. On the other hand, perhaps it is new, freshly minted as it is in both Christ and you—the darkness on its way out and the True Light already blazing!

~1 John 2:7-8(MSG)

Hey lovelies! Its been a while since I last wrote and I apologize for that. Charge it to my head and not my heart. Trust I never forget about you all :-)

Let me just say that these next blogs to follow will be that of a personal testimony and very transparent. Not saying that I wasn't speaking from experience before but you get my drift.

In January of 2002 I was raped behind my apartment building. I was coming home from after school rehearsal. One thing that haunted me was that one thing he said to me when he finished was, "You are a nobody who is being raped by somebody who will rape your mind for the rest of your life." I kept it from my mom and my grandmother until April of that same year, but I never sought help because as I am very famous for doing, I planned on burying it along with other things that have buried. But of coarse, later on in life that back fired.

After I had my son, (who will 1 on the 23 by the way, time sure does fly) I went through postpartum depression so I started counseling....coming to find out that not was I only being affected by postpartum but also post traumatic stress disorder.

Because I never dealt with being raped or seeking the professional help that was needed, certain actions began to make up my personality. Being overly nervous, not believing in myself and seeking the approval of others, because after all, "I was a nobody whose mind was being raped by somebody".

So a lot of my actions towards my husband were that of what was done to me. A lot of time us as "spiritual" beings tend to sweep stuff under the rug and think that God will take care of it, but at the same time, he has given us people here on this earth to help with the dealings. Emotionally, even though I would give my life for my husband, there was still a part of me that I could not give because of my "mind being raped"

In order for my mind to no longer be raped by this man who took something from me, marked me, I had to forgive him. In order for me to move on in my life and give my husband everything that he deserves from me, I had to forgive the man who had done this to me. Once I let go of what was then and realized that is okay now,....I saw my future life.

I say all of this to say, To LIVE in your Marriage, you have to FORGIVE your past. We have all been hurt in some way but in order to be YOU and give YOU you must FORGIVE. We have actions and tendencies that honestly are not who we are, they are of that person who has done something to us and we take it out on the wrong people. It always ends up being the person that is closest to us.

You Must Forgive to Live!

So I challenge you today to look at yourself and see the things that are honestly not you and search to see where they came from. And if you cant, seek the help that you need. There is nothing wrong with seeing someone for help. That is what they are here for.

Beach Bummin'

So this week is my husband's last in town...I'm going to miss him, but we've been really making the most of our time. We spent this past weekend in Virginia Beach, VA camping! I love camping. We stayed at the Holiday Trav-L-Park. We I cooked out on the grill, we slept in a tent, made s'mores, rode our bikes, relaxed at the beach, studied our bible, and above all, enjoyed each other's company.

My feet in the nice warm sand!

Our firepit...a gift from my little brother.

Now that he'll be gone in just a few days I've been taking the time to find some new extra-curricular activities to get into. So far I've tried pole dancing for fitness (and fun!). I've been checking out sites like Trubates, Groupon and LivingSocial to find new things to do in the DC area. I'm going to give adult ballet and yoga classes a try next. Any other suggestions? Any other sites? Let me know!

Back to Blogging - Angel

So, what's new?

Well, I recently celebrated my 2 year anniversary with a super-fabulous 10 day vacation/excursion/adventure in Spain, Portugal and Morocco! Yes, all three countries in one trip. My husband and I did a whirlwind self-guided tour of that part of the world. I'll post another blog entry sharing that trip with you.

My husband just got offered a new job assignment that will have him away for an extended period...that'll be something new for me.

I'm rearing up to finally finish decorating my home! I was featured on HGTV's My First Place in October 2010. Our episode was called, "Bachelor Pad Trade-Up". You can see a clip from our episode here.

I've decided to get active in making my personal goals and dreams come true. Those include investing more time into launching my hobby-business, ilovepageantry! and raising funds for a scholarship fund, The Exceptional Support Foundation. I would greatly appreciate your support as I pursue these endeavours.

Will write more soon!

PS - Don't forget to check out my other blog.